It is dangerous to be stuck in an emotional drama.
Take for example an accounting balance sheet. According to
the accounting equation, your assets are the sum of your liabilities and
capital. So if you take emotional drama to be your liabilities and your mental
health as your capital, then your resulting emotional well being (your assets) is really low.
The above analogy may seem irritating to a few because of
the comparison between human emotions and money but come to think of it, isn’t
the above statement quite true? How long can you subject yourself to repeated
onslaught of someone’s moods? How long can you withstand a fight that doesn’t
involve you directly but affects you because of your proximity to the parties
involved? And most importantly, how long can we continue to allow our anger or
hurt to fester? Till the time our mind suppurates from the wound and we end up
disfigured from its effects?
Within a week, I had a fight with a friend (which has
thankfully been solved), I’ve seen two of my close-ones fighting continuously
(and man does it annoy me like anything!) and I have unknowingly acted as an
emotional Guru (now don’t we all hate such
emotional-high-and-mighty-know-it-all-gurus like me?!). And on top of it,
somebody suggested that I tend to sadden people around me by complaining and
whining too much (which I suppose may be true but I was nevertheless hurt by
it).
I am telling you people, we need to get rid of unnecessary
emotional baggage. It weighs us down tremendously. I refuse to be the slave of
my emotions. Easier said than done, but I am going to try like anything. I may
run the risk of appearing cold at times, but hey! I do not need the tension
man!
yes you are right -- you have to become emotionally detached. I know it is difficult, I would be the first one to say that, but only if you keep trying can you do it. Somethings will never change around you, habits are die hard, the older we become the longer the list of grudges and rigid we become. It is hard to admit one's faults, we all think we are correct, but the biggest mistake one can do is to take on other people's problems on themselves. You are no saint and don't have to try to be one.
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